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The general answer to that question is
simple, though often difficult to put into
practice: We must keep speaking honestly, as
often as possible, in as many venues as
possible. We must resist the conventional
wisdom. We must reject the cultural amnesia.
We must refuse to be polite when politeness
means capitulation to lies.
I
have not always been strong enough to meet even
these basic moral obligations. Most of us in
positions of unearned privilege and power would
be wise to avoid pontificating about our moral
superiority and political courage, given our
routine failures. Can any of us not point to
moments when we went along to get along? Have
any of us done enough to bring our lives in line
with the values we claim to hold?
Still, we need to help each other tell the
truth, even when the truth is not welcome.
The illusion of redefining Thanksgiving
Imagine that Germany won World War II and that a
Nazi regime endured for some decades, eventually
giving way to a more liberal state with a softer
version of German-supremacist ideology. Imagine
that a century later, Germans celebrated a
holiday offering a whitewashed version of
German/Jewish history that ignored that
holocaust and the deep anti-Semitism of the
culture. Imagine that the holiday provided a
welcomed time for families and friends to gather
and enjoy food and conversation. Imagine that
businesses, schools and government offices
closed on this day.
What would we say about such a holiday? Would we
not question the distortions woven into such a
celebration? Would we not demand a more accurate
historical account? Would we not, in fact,
denounce such a holiday as grotesque?
Now, imagine that left/liberal Germans -- those
who were critical of the power structure that
created that distorted history and who in other
settings would challenge the political uses of
those distortions -- put aside their critique
and celebrated the holiday with their fellow
citizens, claiming to ignore the meaning of the
holiday created by the dominant culture.
What would we say about such people? Would we
not question their commitment to the principles
they claim to hold? Would we not demand a more
courageous politics?
Comparisons to the Nazis are routinely overused
and typically hyperbolic, but this is directly
analogous. These are fair, albeit painful,
questions for all of us.
Left/liberals who want to claim they are
rejecting that European-supremacist and racist
use of Thanksgiving and "redefining" the holiday
in private clearly avoid the obvious: We don't
define holidays individually -- the idea of a
holiday is rooted in its collective, shared
meaning. When the dominant culture defines a
holiday in a certain fashion, one can't pretend
to redefine it in private. One either accepts
the dominant definition or resists it, publicly
and privately.
Of course people often struggle for control over
the meaning of symbols and holidays, but
typically we engage in such battles when we
believe there is some positive aspect of the
symbol or holiday worth fighting for. For
example, Christians -- some of whom believe that
Christmas should focus on the values of
universal love and world peace rather than on
orgiastic consumption -- may resist that
commercialization and argue in public and
private for a different approach to the holiday.
Those people typically continue to celebrate
Christmas, but in ways consistent with those
values. In that case, people are trying to
recover and/or reinforce something that they
believe is positive because of values rooted in
a historical tradition. Those folks struggle
over the meaning of Christmas because they
believe the core of Christianity is experienced
through the people we touch, not the products we
purchase. In that endeavor, Christians are
arguing the culture has gone astray and lost the
positive, historical grounding of the holiday.
But what is positive in the historical events
that define Thanksgiving? What tradition are we
trying to return to? I have no quarrel with
designating a day (or days) that would allow
people to take a break from our often manic work
routines and appreciate the importance of
community, encouraging all of us to be grateful
for what we have. But if that is the goal, why
yoke it to Thanksgiving Day and a history of
celebrating European/white dominance and
conquest? Trying to transform Thanksgiving Day
into a true day of thanksgiving, it seems to me,
is possible only by letting go of this holiday,
not by remaining rooted in it. If there were a
major shift in the culture and a majority of
people could confront these historical
realities, perhaps the last Thursday in November
could be so transformed. But that shift and
transformation are, to say the least, not yet
here.
For too long, I ignored these
troubling questions. To get along, I
went along. I buried my concerns to
avoid making trouble. But in recent
years that has become more
difficult. So, this year I want to
acknowledge my past failures to
raise these issues and commit not
only to renouncing Thanksgiving
publicly but also to refusing to
participate in any celebration of it
privately.
The choices: Make people
comfortable by engaging or by
disengaging
Obviously
there are people in the United
States -- indigenous and otherwise
-- who do not celebrate Thanksgiving
or who mark it, in private and/or in
public, as a
day of
mourning.
Also obvious is that there are
people who may not have a family or
community with which they celebrate
such holidays; it's important to
remember that there are people on
such holidays who are alone and/or
lonely, and to them these political
questions may seem irrelevant.
But for those of us who do get
invited to traditional Thanksgiving
Day dinners, how do we remain true
to our stated political and moral
principles? I think we have two
choices.
We can go to the Thanksgiving
gatherings put on by friends and
family, determined to raise these
issues and willing to take the risk
of alienating those who want to
enjoy the day without politics. Or,
we can refuse to go to such a
gathering and make it known why
we're not attending, which means
taking the risk of alienating those
who want to enjoy the day without
politics.
This year, I've decided to disengage
and explain why to the people who
invited me. These are people I love,
yet who have made a different
decision. My love for them has not
diminished, and I trust the
conversation with them about this
and other political/moral questions
will continue.
Once I make that decision, of
course, I also have the option of
participating in a public event that
resists Thanksgiving. I'm not aware
of one happening in my community,
and because of commitments to other
political projects, I didn't feel I
could organize an effective event in
time for this Thanksgiving Day. But
on the assumption that others may
feel this way, I have started
thinking about what kind of public
gathering could make such a
political statement effectively, and
in the future I hope to find others
who are interested in such an event
locally.
So, what will I do on Thanksgiving
Day this year? I'll probably spend
part of the day alone. Maybe I'll
take a long walk and think about all
this. I'll try to be kind and decent
to the people I bump into during the
day. I'll miss the company of
friends and family who are
gathering, and I'll try to reflect
on why I've made this choice and why
this question matters to me. I'll
think about why others made the
choices they made.
But this year, whatever I do, I
won't celebrate Thanksgiving. I'm
going to let that parade pass me by.